It’s becoming tedious, not very fun, you hardly go out anymore, and you only see each other once a week? Flings are meant to be fun, not hard work. There’s no commitment, therefore there’s no reason to stay. If he was your boyfriend, that would be different, however, these are the signs that it’s time to leave that fling behind and move on with your life.
He keeps bailing on plans. You both make plans, however, something always comes up to keep you two from hanging out. He had plans with friends already, he’s too tired, he has to work in the morning — it doesn’t matter, you can not seem to get him to hang out with you. After all, those excuses didn’t exist when you first started hanging out right? It’s time to call it quits. If he’s not making time for you now, he’s not going to make time for you in the future. No girl deserves a guy who doesn’t make the time to hang out with them.
He doesn’t talk to you as much. When you first started hanging out you guys would text and talk all the time. Now conversation at dinner has dwindled, he says he wants to talk about things, and then is silent whenever the opportunity comes up, but most importantly – he goes hours and hours without a single text to see what you’re up to. As much as you try, this is also not going to get any better. It doesn’t mean that he has to text you 24/7, but 5 hours and nothing is a little much.
There’s no affection anymore. I’m not just talking about sex here. There’s no more hand holding, no more random kisses, he doesn’t hug you when he sees you anymore, and you even are sitting on opposite sides of the couch. This is already signaling that the two of you are distant. Not only that, but you hardly want to touch each other. If it is uncomfortable – get out while you can.
After several months, you’re still “just friends” to him. You guys have been seeing each other for a couple months, talking here and there. However, whenever it comes up, you’re “just friends”. Sure you are friends, however, there’s more going on there. You don’t need a relationship, but you don’t deserve to be “just friends” when there’s obviously more going on between the two of you. Even “complicated” is a better title. If he thinks of you this way, there’s no way this relationship is worth it. You’re just his way of biding time until he finds someone he really wants to invest his time with.
You aren’t even friends. If you two were to break it off, you wouldn’t even want to be his friend. That says something right there. There’s no point in being with someone who you can’t even be friends with. Part of being with someone, is that aspect of friendship. The fact is, if he can’t be there for you, he won’t ever be there for you. It’s pointless if there’s no friendship.
Calling it off as you see these signs will save you the trouble. Sure, things may get better, however, no girl deserves to be in an unhappy situation only to wait it out. If you are committed to him, that’s one thing, but if it’s a causal fling? Let him go.