You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 31

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1. Only I would write a note asking a cute guy in my first class if he wants my number (including the circle yes or no) — and then have him sit on it, not see it until the end of our exam, and have to wait until Tuesday to see my answer. #dafuq #atleastididit #omg #onlytomethiswouldhappen

2. Colin Kaepernick is the SOREST loser in the entire NFL. #shermancouldkickyourass #dontbehatin #noonelikesyou

3. Can’t shake this need to listen to Jay-Z. Can I get a……? #jammin #nothinglikethesebeats

4. Italy is still dragging out this Amanda Knox case? Are you serious? Don’t you guys have anything better to do? #pleasejuststop #therewasnoevidence #weknowyouaresavingyourasses

5. I like having my several few good friends at school and then being invisible to most of the student body. #justhowilikeit #idontliveoncampus #transferstudentproblems

6. Can we discuss how HOT that Grammy performance with Jay-Z and Beyonce was? #stillrecovering #somuchhottness #dyinginsidehere

7. Stop caring about what other people are going to think about you. Eventually, they’ll move on and forget. Plus, those people who really matter in life will stand by your side. They will forgive you. #butreally #peoplearestupid #thinkaboutit #noneedtocaretoomuch

8. Girls’ nights are the best way to escape reality. #wedocrazystuff #gottalovemygirls

9. There is no reason to comment on your own link when no one else has. No one cares about what you have to say. You make yourself look like people actually care about what you put on Facebook. #omgireallydontlikeyouanyway #pleasestop #yourenotascoolasyouthinkyouare

10. Sometimes, getting yourself in trouble is better than doing nothing at all. #teachesyoulifelessons #keepitinteresting

Let’s Talk About…SHHHH!!!

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As time progresses, more and more sex becomes a causal encounter. But how casual should sex be? Should we allow people to define it? Thanks to Carrie Bradshaw and the ultimate single gal image — sex is more acceptable to be casual than it was a decade ago. Despite it becoming more socially acceptable (especially because of HBO) it does not mean that women can escape the double standard. Guys are high-fived, women are called “whores”. So are we whores? Can we have sex without the negative stereotype? Are we allowed to own our sexuality?

This week, I had an experience that really made me re-think this idea of casual sex. I had hung out with this guy once and we had hardly exchanged many text messages before he texts me in the middle of the night. He asks to come over, I’m half asleep, shrugging my shoulders asking myself, “Why the hell not?” Next thing I know: Boom. Boom. Done.

I have had my fair share of encounters with guys. From boyfriends to flings, to a long term fling. However, there was something different about this one. I was deeply conflicted afterwards. Conflicted about what? Everything. Was a I whore? Was I used? Why did I do that? All of these kinds of questions began to circle in my head and I know I’m not the only girl who thinks of these things.

Reflecting on the situation I realized something vital. I was using him just as much as he was possibly using me. After all, I knew quite well what I was getting myself into by having him come over in the middle of the night. Sure, this wasn’t like me, but I knew what I was doing nonetheless and I knew the repercussions of what could happen afterwards. Then I started to ask myself: did I really want to date, hoping to have a boyfriend? Not really. Did I want to enter a fling as friends like my last encounter? Not really. I was not going down that rabbit hole anytime soon again. So then it came to me, maybe all I wanted was a simple hook up.

So, this progresses into the question of the century. Does this make me a whore? My answer? No! It makes me a woman. I have needs just like everyone else does. Take for example, does the majority of the population call Carrie Bradshaw a whore? And look at how many guys she had her in her life throughout Sex and the City! Does this mean that you should sleep with every guy that comes your way? No! But it means that you shouldn’t have to feel bad about your actions. Simply shrug your shoulders. No big deal. It happened. Move on.

You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 30

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1. I am not appalled by Justin Bieber’s arrest, but I am appalled that he decided to copy Michael Jackson and wave to his fans from the top of his SUV. Who does he think he is? He is NOT EVEN as remotely talented as MJ was. #onlyteenagerslikeyou #pleasestop #youarenotthekingofpop

2. Only I would write a poem about sneaking a boy in through my window. #hehe #creativity #reallifesituations #icouldnthelpmyself

3. No. Please stop talking. Maya Angelou is not a literary icon. That’s like saying Of Mice and Men is one of John Steinbeck’s best works. #thewinterofourdiscontentwashisbestwork #doyouknowanythingaboutbooks #cantlistentoyourstupidity

4. Ghost Adventures season 5 is on preorder? #amazonwishlist #fangirlsscreaming #ilovethisshow #dontjudgeme

5. Whenever someone makes a point that they are better than me, I think about my Nordstrom discount. #umidontthinkso #stoptryingsohard #rollingmyeyes

6. Guys wonder why girls are so “crazy”. I get it, because sometimes, girls can be. However, it does not help that you tell us what we want to hear. Why don’t you tell the truth? Most girls will appreciate being told “I only want a one night thing” or “This just isn’t working out for me.” more than you saying nice things and then never speaking to them again. #canwepleasejustbesmart #thankyou #itstruethough

7. Your true friends will walk with you in the opposite direction just so you can walk by the cute guy in your first class. #itwassoworthit #hescute #girlyscreamhere #friendship

8. Happiness is not a destination. It’s about appreciating the littlest things in life; it’s about having the people you love surrounding you. Happiness isn’t going to happen 100% of the time, but it will be most of the time. #happiness #advice #livebyit

9. Before Sunset with Ethan Hawke and Julie Depry really makes me want to go back to Paris and walk in the streets again. #takemeback #imissparis #bestplaceonthisearth

10. Listen to your gut, but control the thoughts and feelings. Don’t allow them to get to you. No amount of anxiety can change the future. #waystolive #truth #justsayin

You Know It’s About Time When…

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It’s becoming tedious, not very fun, you hardly go out anymore, and you only see each other once a week? Flings are meant to be fun, not hard work. There’s no commitment, therefore there’s no reason to stay. If he was your boyfriend, that would be different, however, these are the signs that it’s time to leave that fling behind and move on with your life.

He keeps bailing on plans. You both make plans, however, something always comes up to keep you two from hanging out. He had plans with friends already, he’s too tired, he has to work in the morning — it doesn’t matter, you can not seem to get him to hang out with you. After all, those excuses didn’t exist when you first started hanging out right? It’s time to call it quits. If he’s not making time for you now, he’s not going to make time for you in the future. No girl deserves a guy who doesn’t make the time to hang out with them.

He doesn’t talk to you as much. When you first started hanging out you guys would text and talk all the time. Now conversation at dinner has dwindled, he says he wants to talk about things, and then is silent whenever the opportunity comes up, but most importantly – he goes hours and hours without a single text to see what you’re up to. As much as you try, this is also not going to get any better. It doesn’t mean that he has to text you 24/7, but 5 hours and nothing is a little much.

There’s no affection anymore. I’m not just talking about sex here. There’s no more hand holding, no more random kisses, he doesn’t hug you when he sees you anymore, and you even are sitting on opposite sides of the couch. This is already signaling that the two of you are distant. Not only that, but you hardly want to touch each other. If it is uncomfortable – get out while you can.

After several months, you’re still “just friends” to him. You guys have been seeing each other for a couple months, talking here and there. However, whenever it comes up, you’re “just friends”. Sure you are friends, however, there’s more going on there. You don’t need a relationship, but you don’t deserve to be “just friends” when there’s obviously more going on between the two of you. Even “complicated” is a better title. If he thinks of you this way, there’s no way this relationship is worth it. You’re just his way of biding time until he finds someone he really wants to invest his time with.

You aren’t even friends. If you two were to break it off, you wouldn’t even want to be his friend. That says something right there. There’s no point in being with someone who you can’t even be friends with. Part of being with someone, is that aspect of friendship. The fact is, if he can’t be there for you, he won’t ever be there for you. It’s pointless if there’s no friendship.

Calling it off as you see these signs will save you the trouble. Sure, things may get better, however, no girl deserves to be in an unhappy situation only to wait it out. If you are committed to him, that’s one thing, but if it’s a causal fling? Let him go.

You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 29

1. Can we just discuss that season 3 premiere of #Girls?! I mean #OMGlikeOMG, I just can’t get over it. #isecretlylikeadam #jessainrehab

2. Whenever you want a pointless debate about “what is art?” between freshman in your creative writing class to end, just explain how art is relative and how it is all up to the individuals interpretation. Those freshman will shut up because there’s no way to argue against that. #upperclassmanproblems #lowerlevelucorclasses #creativewritingisjusttoolong #nofreshmanboyyouarenotsmarterthanme

3. The best way to spin a new perspective on life is to rearrange your apartment. Feng shui actually works! #thoselittlethings #oldapartmentnewview

4. Big thank you to the guys on #CapitolHill who yelled out when they heard Lenny Kravitz’s “Fly Away” blasting from my car. #hysterical #onlyoncaphill #lennykravitzrules

5. Whoever hasn’t seen #ChicagoPD is just missing out on one of the best cop shows on TV. #justsaying #andidontsaythatveryoften

6. At Seattle U, we use novels more than actual textbooks. #privateschoolproblems #thebestwaytolearn #icandeal

7. Since when did owning a cheap purse and having terrible roots constitute for being able to think you’re better than everyone else? Oh yeah, right….it doesn’t. Fix your roots, buy an actual bag. #shutupplease #omgthoserootsaresobad #cringing #rollingmyeyes #socialhierarchiesconfusesme

8. Who knew that the lack of one person in your life could make your life so much less complicated? #thoselittlethings #feelingfree #itsover

9. This #LennyKravitz t-shirt I bought at #Nordstrom is one of the greatest pieces of clothing I have ever owned. #nexttomyjoiesweater #ilovenordstrom #omgsoawesome

10. At this age, you’ve got to do what’s best for you. You won’t be able to later, so do it now. Whether it’s quitting, moving on, moving forward, starting something – just do it because you might regret it later. #lifesucks #myadvice

Best Tweets of the Fall

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I did it for the summer and now I’m doing it for the fall! These are my best tweets of the season. Be sure to follow me on Twitter : @trishasteffens

My life flashes before my eyes when I can’t find my other fuzzy sock. #trishaproblems #fuzzysocks

If it was acceptable, I would start today off with a shot of whiskey. #canijustleaveforvacaynow #whatdoesntkillyouonlymakesyoustronger

Ditching my bed and episodes of #TrophyWife was definitely a bad idea. #notplaying #stillsick #whyamihere

No Edward, you look like a drag queen when you sparkle, not a killer. #twilightproblems #hehe #butseriously

I make it a goal to make my life look like it belongs on Tumblr. #trishaproblems #prettythingsinlife

Instead of eating pizza, I reblog pictures of pizza. #pizzaproblems #closeenough

The air is even cleaner here….can we go back to Seattle now? #Portlandproblems #afterbeinginportlandfortwoseconds

I just don’t understand those people who want to be friends with me. #stop #idontlikeclingypeople #leavemealone

RETWEET Kat Dennings: “Sometimes instead of studying, I eat tortellini”

When the CEO of Victoria Clipper gets quoted calling himself a “dumbass” #keepitprofessional #facepalm

I’m that person who drives 20 mph over the speed limit and gets mad at other people for driving slow… #ihaveproblems #speeddemon #ijustwannagethomedammit

Let’s stop all of this not talking and eye glances and make out already. #latetweet #yesterday #truestory #isawyou

My closet is turning into #Nordstrom. #workproblems #workflow #love #illgetitatwork

Only we would drunk text someone with the intention of sounding like #KristinCav #lagunabeachproblems

I just wrote three sentences — rewarding myself with Twitter. #collegeproblems #noshame #dontwannawritethispaper

Randomly revising Albert Camus’ #TheStranger to a more urban modern setting. #onlyincomclass #nerdtimeswithjaimie

A 90% on a paper I wrote in fifteen minutes? Kay thanks. #didnteventry #collegelife

I’m a compulsive Nordstrom shopper and I’m not even sorry about it. #sorrynotsorry #nordstromproblems

“If you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” -Paul Coehlo. #holla #truthbetold

Why do I always get myself into trouble when I come back to Skagit County? #trishaproblems #canthelpmyself #herewegoagain

According to #TheVampireDiaries we all get #doppelgangers when we turn into #vampires. #dafuq

Only I would sit in New Testament theology and wonder if Jesus was hot… #trishaproblems #onlyme #tooearlyforthis

Well, how long do you wait for the hero to realize he’s the hero? #iquotemyself

“If you’re going to throw your life away, he better have a motorcycle!” – Lorelai Gilmore #gilmoregirls #thesenights #lovethisquote

 

You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 28

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Happy New Year readers! In light of the New Year, it’s time to remind you guys how to act!

1. Just because you post “New Year, New Me” doesn’t mean you will change magically. #thenewyeardoesntchangeeverything#cloggingmynewsfeed

2. I completely judge those people who makes an Instagram account for their pets. #theycantactuallypost #dontyouhavealife

3. Despite what people say, reading is ACTUALLY cool. #booknerd #beingsmartisawesome #whodoesntread

4. At least once a year, a girl needs to watch the entire Sex and the City series in order to remember how to be an independent, strong woman. #insightfulshow #reallifeadvice #ilovemrbig #iamacarriemeetsasamanatha

5. Instead of eating pizza, I just reblog pictures of pizza on Tumblr. #trishaproblems #ilovepizza #cheesygoodness

6. I’m really sorry but posting throwback pictures of people that you used to be friends with is just a little pathetic….especially on Facebook. #facepalm #pleasedonttorturetherestofus #omg

7. Speaking of Facebook, no one really wants to know about how “awkward” it was that your brother’s friend saw you half naked while you were walking in your house. We all know, it wasn’t that awkward for you. #youliketheattention #idontwannaknow #pleasestoptalking

8. When a guy tells you that you aren’t easy and yet manages to drive twenty minutes in the wee hours of the morning just to talk to you, probably cares a lot more than he wants to admit. #thoseguys #sometimesthosenightsareneeded

9. Newsflash guys: when you cancel on a girl, never ask to see them, or hardly text them first — they’re going to stop trusting you. #truestory #sorrynotsorry #areyouthatoblivioustolife

10. Sometimes, I feel like I’m meant to be fight evil supernatural entities, and then I realize I’m human. #sadstory #trishaproblems #ohwell #watchingtoomuchgrimm