We live in society of denial. No one can admit the truth each other, much less to themselves. Passive aggressiveness is prevalent and gets nobody anywhere. Just call it what it is, at least to yourself.
1. “I’m mad.” No one actually admits when they’re mad about something. Instead, they allow everything else to get them upset and take it out on the people around them. Taking it out on others around you will not solve the problem. Instead admit that you’re angry and the reason behind it. While most people say, “don’t let it get to you” it’s too late for that. Find someone to talk to about it, even if it is someone who can’t find a solution to the problem.
2. “My body will never be perfect.” THAT IS PERFECTLY OKAY. Society tells us what is acceptable, when in fact, not even celebrities’ bodies look like that. And if it does, they spend hours upon hours working out. With that, every person has a different body type. For example, I will never have stick thin thighs and I have come to terms that I am happy with that. For my body, that is just the way it is. However, there’s nothing wrong with exercising and eating healthy. Your body may not be perfect, but that doesn’t meant you can’t be healthy.
3. “Maybe Fox News really isn’t the most reliable news source.” Do I need to explain?
4. “My mom was right”. Because, really, she is – Moms have been through so much and have known you for your entire life. They see everything, including those small habits that you don’t even notice about yourself. She will always know what’s best for you. Sometimes, not, but most of the time – Mom actually gets it. She knows the good relationships from the bad and the colors that you can wear the best.
5. “I spent too much money at Nordstrom.” And I feel no shame and no regret. Really, I did need new clothing for spring and I cannot come to regret any piece that I have bought. It was all worth it. It’s perfectly okay to sit there and admit that you have spent way too much money, at least you can admit it! However, will I ever regret those nude wedges and black track pants? Probably…never.
6. “I deserve the best.” You do. The best for you is going to be different than what the best is for another person. It doesn’t always mean fame and fortune, but instead maybe the things that bring you inner peace and the person who allows you to be yourself regardless of where he comes from and what he does.
7. “I don’t really want a relationship right now.” In this culture, people are so centered on finding “the one” or someone to be with that we forget that maybe being single is what is best for us in that certain moment in life. Being single allows us to understand what we want more and brings us to know ourselves better.
8. “What’s so great about growing up?” I mean, watching that 19 year old with a fake ID, going to raves, talking about bars is so painful. Do not waste your years being a kid, but instead savor them. One day you’ll look back and wish that you stayed a kid and not a grown up so quickly. Like I’ve blogged about before, we all end up back at our parents’ house, eating their food, and laying in our old rooms pretending we are seventeen again….
9. “Fashion magazines actually know what they’re talking about.” They really do, most of the time. Ignore the relationship part and instead focus on the fashion and beauty parts. They know the best products, but also they are looking at the up and coming trends. This doesn’t mean you have to follow exactly what they say and the trends they talk about, but it gives you an idea of what is out there in order to develop your own style and understand other styles out there.
10. “I’m not over it.” You know that moment when the friends you haven’t seen in forever start talking about that guy you had a fling with and you still feel the resentment and anger from the entire situation? Yeah, you’re not over it. It’s HEALTHY to admit that. In fact, some friends will welcome you saying that instead of denying that you obviously aren’t over it. It’s best to get that out in the open rather than to hide it and never grow and heal from the whole mess.
11. “Meditation is a good idea.” Meditation brings not only inner peace but allows your brain to refresh. It knocks all of the problems out and instead clears, allowing you to have a better perception on what is going on around you. Not only that, but it teaches you discipline in how keep your brain clear of the clutter it doesn’t need in it.
12. “I’m happy.” What’s not to be happy about? So what if nothing is working out the way you want it to? What if you don’t have everything you want? You’re alive. Summer is approaching. Be thankful that you are there to enjoy the day. Go lay out and read some Dorothy Parker.