12 Things Everyone Should Admit to Themselves

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We live in society of denial. No one can admit the truth each other, much less to themselves. Passive aggressiveness is prevalent and gets nobody anywhere. Just call it what it is, at least to yourself.

1. “I’m mad.” No one actually admits when they’re mad about something. Instead, they allow everything else to get them upset and take it out on the people around them. Taking it out on others around you will not solve the problem. Instead  admit that you’re angry and the reason behind it. While most people say, “don’t let it get to you” it’s too late for that. Find someone to talk to about it, even if it is someone who can’t find a solution to the problem.

2. “My body will never be perfect.” THAT IS PERFECTLY OKAY. Society tells us what is acceptable, when in fact, not even celebrities’ bodies look like that. And if it does, they spend hours upon hours working out. With that, every person has a different body type. For example, I will never have stick thin thighs and I have come to terms that I am happy with that. For my body, that is just the way it is. However, there’s nothing wrong with exercising and eating healthy. Your body may not be perfect, but that doesn’t meant you can’t be healthy.

3. “Maybe Fox News really isn’t the most reliable news source.” Do I need to explain?

4. “My mom was right”. Because, really, she is – Moms have been through so much and have known you for your entire life. They see everything, including those small habits that you don’t even notice about yourself. She will always know what’s best for you. Sometimes, not, but most of the time – Mom actually gets it. She knows the good relationships from the bad and the colors that you can wear the best.

5. “I spent too much money at Nordstrom.” And I feel no shame and no regret. Really, I did need new clothing for spring and I cannot come to regret any piece that I have bought. It was all worth it. It’s perfectly okay to sit there and admit that you have spent way too much money, at least you can admit it! However, will I ever regret those nude wedges and black track pants? Probably…never.

6. “I deserve the best.” You do. The best for you is going to be different than what the best is for another person. It doesn’t always mean fame and fortune, but instead maybe the things that bring you inner peace and the person who allows you to be yourself regardless of where he comes from and what he does.

7. “I don’t really want a relationship right now.” In this culture, people are so centered on finding “the one” or someone to be with that we forget that maybe being single is what is best for us in that certain moment in life. Being single allows us to understand what we want more and brings us to know ourselves better.

8. “What’s so great about growing up?” I mean, watching that 19 year old with a fake ID, going to raves, talking about bars is so painful. Do not waste your years being a kid, but instead savor them. One day you’ll look back and wish that you stayed a kid and not a grown up so quickly. Like I’ve blogged about before, we all end up back at our parents’ house, eating their food, and laying in our old rooms pretending we are seventeen again….

9. “Fashion magazines actually know what they’re talking about.” They really do, most of the time. Ignore the relationship part and instead focus on the fashion and beauty parts. They know the best products, but also they are looking at the up and coming trends. This doesn’t mean you have to follow exactly what they say and the trends they talk about, but it gives you an idea of what is out there in order to develop your own style and understand other styles out there.

10. “I’m not over it.” You know that moment when the friends you haven’t seen in forever start talking about that guy you had a fling with and you still feel the resentment and anger from the entire situation? Yeah, you’re not over it. It’s HEALTHY to admit that. In fact, some friends will welcome you saying that instead of denying that you obviously aren’t over it. It’s best to get that out in the open rather than to hide it and never grow and heal from the whole mess.

11. “Meditation is a good idea.” Meditation brings not only inner peace but allows your brain to refresh. It knocks all of the problems out and instead clears, allowing you to have a better perception on what is going on around you. Not only that, but it teaches you discipline in how keep your brain clear of the clutter it doesn’t need in it.

12. “I’m happy.” What’s not to be happy about? So what if nothing is working out the way you want it to? What if you don’t have everything you want? You’re alive. Summer is approaching. Be thankful that you are there to enjoy the day. Go lay out and read some Dorothy Parker.

You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 37

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1. I’m beginning to think maybe Carrie Bradshaw had a solid point when she asked Mr. Big for a really big closet instead of a diamond ring. #keepingproritiesstraight #theultimatesinglegirl

2. Sons of Anarchy makes me realized how hot bad boys really are and how unappealing the preppy Seattle boy can be… #yumm #ilikemymenrougharoundtheedges

3. I made stupid decisions at 19 because I was stupid, now I make stupid decisions at 21 because I know they’re stupid and I just don’t care. #differenceofages #realmature

4. Being extremely drunk and being extremely tired are almost the exact same things. Only one requires alcohol. #truestories #exhausted #longestclosingshiftever

5. Growing up is overrated. We all end up at our parents’ house over the weekend eating their food and pretending to be seventeen again. #throwback #grownupproblems #momineedfood

6. Good friends party with you until four in the morning, the best of friends drink artisan beer and talk with you until four in the morning.  #bestoffriends #butreally #lovethem

7. It is the most therapeutic thing to admit that you aren’t over something. Everyone always tells people how they are over things, but it’s even better when you can look your friends in the eyes and say, “I thought I was over it, but I’m not. I need help.”

8. You know that you’re going to need a venti latte when you can’t even deal with your own crankiness. #ihateeveryonetoday #pleaseleavemealone #caffienesaveme

9. That moment when you attempt to find an excuse to go into a farmer’s supply store, but you know there would be no reason for you to be one….especially in Tory Burch flats… #idontevenknowhowtouseashovel #iworkatnordstrom #dotheseshoessaycountrygirltoyou

10. I don’t want to imagine the kind of person I would be if I never had the mom I did. Sure, she can drive me insane sometimes, but I know that no matter when I want to come home, she wants me there. I know that she will come down to Seattle on Saturdays to make me feel better. I know that she will take care of me no matter how old I am. I know that no matter when I screw up, she’s going to tell me to keep it classy. Mom’s are kind of the greatest things in the world. They can turn a really bad day into one of the best days ever. #mymom #myhero #coolestpersonever

You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 33

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1. Only a real gentleman will pay for a girl’s parking, even when she visits for only thirty minutes. #keepitclassyboys #thisishowwedo #thatswhatimtalkingabout

2. Am I the only girl on the planet who truly doesn’t even care that Friday is Valentines Day? #overit #everyonestopwhining #itsjustanotherday

3. If you’re a guy and begging me to “send a picture” (no matter how appropriate or inappropriate you want it to be), you can bet your ass that I’m going to be a bitch to you. #notevengonnalie #notgonnaworkonmebuddy #canwehavesomeclasshereplease #whereareyourmanners

4. Most girls get really excited when they start to like a new guy. Not me. My thoughts end up looking like this: “Oh no. Please stop this. No. I can’t like him. I don’t like people. Noooooo. Make this torture stop. Put me out of my misery.” #idontlikelikingguys #ughicantdealwithfeelings #canijustnot #helpmeee

5. If I haven’t spoken to you in over a month, odds are I will not reply to your stupid Facebook message to me, including some lame link about something that I don’t even care enough about. AND THEN, end your message with “Hope you are well!” Um, we aren’t friends. You are a douche. #patheticguys #youruinedthisyourself #goodluckbeingadoucheinlife #iwantnothingtodowithyou #isecrelyhopeyoureadthispost

6. Guys are just as self-conscious as girls with what they say. Guys say certain things when they really mean something or like a girl, they don’t pull the “If you meet my friends…” out of nowhere. #butreally #okayicandothis #butreally

7. You are not allowed to use the phrase, “Oh no honey” when you still live with your parents, buy cheap clothes, and use cheap, caky makeup. #pleasestop #youarenotthatgreat #youropinionisirrelevantinthegrandschemeoflife #facepalmforyou

8. Despite the fact that Sarah Dessen is an author for “young adults”, I always feel refreshed with a new perspective when I read one of her books. Often too, a little hopeful about life. #thosestories #readingisgoodforthesoul

9. I already know I am getting a new tote and sunglasses with my tax refund money because that is the only way I’m getting new ones. #ineedthemreally #michaelkorsitout #iloveworkingatnordstrom

10. Find that one thing in life that brings you a peace of mind: whether it is laying on your bed listening to Keane, reading one of your favorite books over, going for a late night drive with the right music — find that. It will help bring clarity to your mind and allow you to breathe a little easier. #lifeadvice #butreally #peaceisagoodthing #breathedeeper

Best Tweets of the Fall

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I did it for the summer and now I’m doing it for the fall! These are my best tweets of the season. Be sure to follow me on Twitter : @trishasteffens

My life flashes before my eyes when I can’t find my other fuzzy sock. #trishaproblems #fuzzysocks

If it was acceptable, I would start today off with a shot of whiskey. #canijustleaveforvacaynow #whatdoesntkillyouonlymakesyoustronger

Ditching my bed and episodes of #TrophyWife was definitely a bad idea. #notplaying #stillsick #whyamihere

No Edward, you look like a drag queen when you sparkle, not a killer. #twilightproblems #hehe #butseriously

I make it a goal to make my life look like it belongs on Tumblr. #trishaproblems #prettythingsinlife

Instead of eating pizza, I reblog pictures of pizza. #pizzaproblems #closeenough

The air is even cleaner here….can we go back to Seattle now? #Portlandproblems #afterbeinginportlandfortwoseconds

I just don’t understand those people who want to be friends with me. #stop #idontlikeclingypeople #leavemealone

RETWEET Kat Dennings: “Sometimes instead of studying, I eat tortellini”

When the CEO of Victoria Clipper gets quoted calling himself a “dumbass” #keepitprofessional #facepalm

I’m that person who drives 20 mph over the speed limit and gets mad at other people for driving slow… #ihaveproblems #speeddemon #ijustwannagethomedammit

Let’s stop all of this not talking and eye glances and make out already. #latetweet #yesterday #truestory #isawyou

My closet is turning into #Nordstrom. #workproblems #workflow #love #illgetitatwork

Only we would drunk text someone with the intention of sounding like #KristinCav #lagunabeachproblems

I just wrote three sentences — rewarding myself with Twitter. #collegeproblems #noshame #dontwannawritethispaper

Randomly revising Albert Camus’ #TheStranger to a more urban modern setting. #onlyincomclass #nerdtimeswithjaimie

A 90% on a paper I wrote in fifteen minutes? Kay thanks. #didnteventry #collegelife

I’m a compulsive Nordstrom shopper and I’m not even sorry about it. #sorrynotsorry #nordstromproblems

“If you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” -Paul Coehlo. #holla #truthbetold

Why do I always get myself into trouble when I come back to Skagit County? #trishaproblems #canthelpmyself #herewegoagain

According to #TheVampireDiaries we all get #doppelgangers when we turn into #vampires. #dafuq

Only I would sit in New Testament theology and wonder if Jesus was hot… #trishaproblems #onlyme #tooearlyforthis

Well, how long do you wait for the hero to realize he’s the hero? #iquotemyself

“If you’re going to throw your life away, he better have a motorcycle!” – Lorelai Gilmore #gilmoregirls #thesenights #lovethisquote

 

Friday Fun Extra: Texts I Hate

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1. K: I am guilty of using this one when I have no free second to reply back to someone or if I’m upset with someone. However, this is still one of my most hated text messages. It’s one thing if you’re busy and are not able to respond with an acceptable response, but to do this all of the time is ridiculous. Is it impossible for you to finish the extra letter to this? It makes me feel as if the person texting does not care enough to finish this word. With phones these days it takes no time to add the extra letter. Thank you.

2. Lol: This one is really annoying to me. If I said something funny, that’s all you can reply with is “lol”? Again, sometimes that’s the response when people are busy and have no time to respond to you. However, this should not be happening all the time. If what I said was remotely entertaining, I want a better response than lol. Most of the time when someone response with “lol” I just stop speaking to them. They can respond when they come up with something more clever or original.

3. Ya: I hate this one because it sends off messages. Do they want me to keep talking or do they not want to talk anymore? What does this even mean? Also, I hate responding to this one because the person who texted it can’t take the extra two seconds, maybe less, to finish the word with adding two letters. I know it’s a big stretch — but yeah looks better than ya.

4. NMU: The whole “text lingo” died once the touch screen phones came out with the full keyboard which makes it easy to text entire sentences in seconds. There’s no more “T9” because the flip phones are not used that often. With that, it annoys me that people cannot spell out entire sentences. It makes them sound lazy. Teenage girls use the “text lingo” still, not adults who have been around this technology for a long time.

5. Send Me A Pic: This is popular amongst boys in particular. They are always asking girls for “pics”. Girls with shirts off, showing more than they should, etc. This is really annoying to be texting a guy and then he pulls that line out. Right then and there it turns me off. Not only is it an inconvenience to take off all of my clothes and then put them back on after I send the picture, but it spoils the entire element of surprise. It also compromises the girl’s dignity. What kind of gentleman would do that to girl?