You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 37

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1. I’m beginning to think maybe Carrie Bradshaw had a solid point when she asked Mr. Big for a really big closet instead of a diamond ring. #keepingproritiesstraight #theultimatesinglegirl

2. Sons of Anarchy makes me realized how hot bad boys really are and how unappealing the preppy Seattle boy can be… #yumm #ilikemymenrougharoundtheedges

3. I made stupid decisions at 19 because I was stupid, now I make stupid decisions at 21 because I know they’re stupid and I just don’t care. #differenceofages #realmature

4. Being extremely drunk and being extremely tired are almost the exact same things. Only one requires alcohol. #truestories #exhausted #longestclosingshiftever

5. Growing up is overrated. We all end up at our parents’ house over the weekend eating their food and pretending to be seventeen again. #throwback #grownupproblems #momineedfood

6. Good friends party with you until four in the morning, the best of friends drink artisan beer and talk with you until four in the morning.  #bestoffriends #butreally #lovethem

7. It is the most therapeutic thing to admit that you aren’t over something. Everyone always tells people how they are over things, but it’s even better when you can look your friends in the eyes and say, “I thought I was over it, but I’m not. I need help.”

8. You know that you’re going to need a venti latte when you can’t even deal with your own crankiness. #ihateeveryonetoday #pleaseleavemealone #caffienesaveme

9. That moment when you attempt to find an excuse to go into a farmer’s supply store, but you know there would be no reason for you to be one….especially in Tory Burch flats… #idontevenknowhowtouseashovel #iworkatnordstrom #dotheseshoessaycountrygirltoyou

10. I don’t want to imagine the kind of person I would be if I never had the mom I did. Sure, she can drive me insane sometimes, but I know that no matter when I want to come home, she wants me there. I know that she will come down to Seattle on Saturdays to make me feel better. I know that she will take care of me no matter how old I am. I know that no matter when I screw up, she’s going to tell me to keep it classy. Mom’s are kind of the greatest things in the world. They can turn a really bad day into one of the best days ever. #mymom #myhero #coolestpersonever

Is Stupid Really Sexy?

Girls will do anything for a guy to notice her. This includes slimming down, not eating in front of a guy, changing their look, avoiding certain topics, and even pretending to be stupid. The later is one that I have noticed more recently amongst girls my age. Giggling and pretending that they don’t understand what the guy is talking, often times scared that their opinion might turn off the guy they may like at the moment has become quiet popular amongst women and girls, but has it always been?

I find this extremely problematic. Not only is it keeping women quiet and voicing who they really are, but this act of flirting can often attract the wrong kind of guys. Oftentimes, guys who may be really hot, but behind closed doors, they may not be the kind of guy you want around for long. So, how can you flirt with a guy without having to act stupid? Simple. Be yourself. Don’t be cocky.

Be Confident. Confidence is key. Once you love yourself, then it allows others to truly fall in love with you right? Guys like a girl who knows who she is and shows that she can be independent when need be. Chronic insecurities, especially with eating, can really be a turn off for guys. There’s no need to be cocky about who you are or talk about how much you love your life, but instead, show that you know what you want, who you are and that’s that.

Challenge them. This one is my personal favorite. It’s a great way to get playful and have a little fun when first meeting a guy. However, make sure you aren’t rude, but make it known you are playing. I like to play the “anything you can do, I can do better”. This will include a playful eye roll, doubting their abilities with a smile on your lips, acting like you’re not impressed — these will make them prove that they are more than just their talk. Sometimes, this will make the guys who are bluffing frustrated, but oftentimes, the guys who are being honest will like to play along. Not only that, but guys like a girl who can hold their own. It shows that when it comes to life, you can stand your ground, and there’s no need to have someone else to lean on.

Brains not braun. Good looks can only go so far. When it comes to a relationship, there needs to be some substance there. The ability to talk and converse about a wide range of topics is really important, with that being smart shows how resourceful you are. With that, you are able to make and form your own opinions based on what is out there when it comes to information. It shows you have plenty to offer in relationship besides a pretty face and a good body, because they can only go so far.

Like I said before, being a dumb girl can often attract guys that you may not be interested in. It can attract guys who crave a woman to control or a guy who just wants a hook up. While it seems like being dumb is the easiest way to attract guys, it is a very wrong way of going about attracting them.

Day 26: What Kind of Person Attracts You

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Tall, dark, and handsome. But really….

Normally, I like brunettes, strong, buff, but smart. I’m into guys who can think for themselves, read, sarcastic. Sarcasm is a big turn on for me.

It’s difficult though. I’ve had many different kinds of people attract me in life. It really depends on the chemistry. That’s really what I depend on. If there’s no chemistry — I’m not interested. I won’t go any further, no matter how hot the guy is. No chemistry, no intrigue — then he’s not worth it and I would probably be bored with him. A hot body and hot guy can only go so far before you’re completely over it.

Guys who have interesting jobs, can contribute to a conversation well, read, are sarcastic, and good looking all at the same time are pretty much my type. Oh, and they have to be weird. They can’t be into normalcy.

That sounds about right. Is that even possible to find in a guy? Haha

It’s hard to talk about this because I’m completely describing my crush since that’s the only guy I’m remotely interested in these days…

Day 10: Discuss Your First Love and First Kiss

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First love AND first kiss? Okay, well, they weren’t the same people. At all. Let’s start with which came first. The kiss.

I was thirteen and dating a guy that I really liked, probably the first guy that I really liked that really liked me back. I was getting out of that awkward stage in life, especially since I had gotten my braces off. His name was Kyle. He was blond (which is not exactly my type) and played hockey. We dated all summer. Anyway, the kiss. I can’t remember exactly how it happened, but we had talked about it. We were hanging out, sitting on my bed (sex was not even a thought in my brain at that age) and all of the sudden, he looks over and kisses me. It wasn’t a kiss that could move mountains, but it was memorable and not terrible at all.

My first love, well, I was sixteen. He was brunette this time, messed with me for years, and honestly, I have no idea why I loved him. There was chemistry between us. He was my first everything, minus the kiss, however, I had fallen for him before anything physical had happened. All I know is that I had no chance when it came to loving him. There were intense feelings between us, but we were from different worlds with different plans for the future that neither one of us were going to change for the other. That’s all I’m going to say about that. Now, I want a bowl of cereal.

Neither was anything that was inspiring or could move mountains, but instead they just were. However, they were both unforgettable to me with their own stories that could write entire books, with boys who were both in my life for years. Not just a couple years, but several years. They were back to back. Granted, they were in different states. However, my relationship with those two guys sort of defined the way I am with guys now.

Okay, cereal time.

Day 1 of 30 Day Challenge

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Yes, I am doing a 30 day challenge on my blog. However, it is one that I carefully chose one that would involve reflective writing, which is what a blog is for right? For the next 30 days I will be writing whatever the prompt gives me. With that, I challenge you to write these as well. You can put them on Tumblr or just write for yourself. Give it a try!

DAY 1: Your current relationship, if you’re single talk about single life.

Well, I’m single….and my single life is full of crushes mostly. There’s nothing too exciting going on. I’ve been hanging out with some guys, gone on a couple of dates, flirted — nothing too exciting or abnormal. I go out, have drinks, enjoy time with guys I like and call it good. Between work and school, having a relationship would be a little difficult right now. So I like the single life. It’s different from what I’m used to. In May of last year, my boyfriend of almost two years and I broke up. It was a decent transition and then I had a couple month fling with a guy, which felt like a relationship. It was hard to keep up the time and finish what I needed to get done. Single life allows me to focus and be more productive.

Mostly, I’ve been on some bad dates. I think this is what I hate most about single life. The dates where they are super into you, but there’s nothing clicking on your part. Sure, they buy you food and drinks, but there’s no connection. Basically, you’re forcing conversation until they drop you off at your car or your apartment. I prefer just hanging out with guys instead of doing the awkward dates. It’s too much pressure and too much disappointment at times.

Could I get into a relationship? I would have to be ready and ease into it. But mostly, I’m taking the time to learn how to love myself while having some fun on the side. I think I’m doing what’s best for me.

 

10 Lessons Single Girls Should Learn

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Being in our twenties, it is the time that we are to make the mistakes, grab the opportunities, fall in and out of love, dance on tables, wake up with the wrong or right people, and eventually grow from our experiences into the people we are supposed to be. We are to learn what is good and what is bad for us. We are to be our own person.

1. Date Casually: There is no need to seriously date at our age. If you have a serious boyfriend, good for you, but this is to the girls who want boyfriends or to settle down. Don’t worry if you haven’t met Mr. Right yet, but instead have a little fun. Talk to too many guys by the end of the night, go out with more than one guy, be unsure about who you want, make out on a dare, have that one guy you can cuddle with without commitment, find those great guys you have chemistry with! Have fun with it! Dating casually eventually helps you figure out what kind of guys are good for you and which ones are using you.

2. Your Life Starts Now: Don’t give excuses on why you can’t do something. Just go do it now. Later on in life isn’t the answer. If you aren’t happy with how things are working out, don’t wait for them to get better, but change it yourself! When I was 20, I made the decision to not wait until I graduated from WSU to live in Seattle and be happy. Instead, I transferred and moved my entire life to the city to live the life I didn’t want to wait for. It’s possible! Is it easy? No, but nothing worth while is ever easy.

3. Make Mistakes: Fight with your friends, say the wrong thing, make the wrong turn, be late, allow your hair to be messy, take the leap, be with the wrong guys, say the things you shouldn’t say. Be able to look back and cringe on that drunken night. Make the mistakes and don’t regret them. The mistake you made put you into the place you are now. No matter what you think, you are supposed to be that way. Mistakes are life lessons.

4. Keep Going: School, work, family, guys, friendships, money — all are stressors that can really make a person want to lie in bed and not move for a week. Instead, keep going along. Sure, it’s tough, but we are all dealing with things as adults that suck. Find ways to help with the stress whether it’s those late night drives, wine with friends, ice cream and chick flicks, or even just going to bed a little early after making a detailed list for the next day. Find something that allows you to deal with the stress and allow you to keep trudging through it.

5. Dress Your Best: Stop wearing the sweatshirts and jeans. Stop sighing and fantasizing whenever you see a girl wearing that perfect outfit with the perfect bag and the hair and make up to match. Be one of these girls. Sure, you will have to sacrifice your cash and closet space, but it’s well worth it! Dressing in that perfect outfit will help with self-confidence and your own self-perception. Anyone can do it! It’s just about the right mind set, being open minded with trends, and being a smart shopper to find those great deals that could save you from breaking the bank. Always remember…Nordstrom Rack is your friend….

6. Find Your Confidence: Stop sighing whenever you look at your body in the mirror because you don’t look like the girls on the magazine covers, on Tumblr, or the celebrities who you admire most. Instead, find something you truly love about yourself: your body, brain, mind, or spirit. Own it. When you begin to love yourself, then you will attract the people who are best for you and who will love you for exactly who you are.

7. Get Creative: Find a creative outlet that you love and be able to do that in order to keep your brain moving, but relief that outside stress. Whether it is art, music, writing, or crafting – do something that will allow your creative juices to flow. Sit in the middle of your apartment and just create with some soft music or that perfect movie in the background. Allow it to refresh you and bring a bit of peace to your world.

8. Buy a Mac: End of story. It will probably be the best investment a single girl can make in her life. It is worth all of the hype they say it is.

9. Let Go: Don’t allow the guys from your past to affect your future. Don’t wait for a guy who will never come in the end. Don’t live in denial. Whatever happens, happens for a reason, no matter how painful the end experience is. Focus on you and making yourself a better person. Your experiences are allowing you to grow and more importantly, allows you to become the person you are supposed to be. Wallowing in the past will only keep you from finding something or someone better.

10. Live With No Regrets: Live it large, don’t regret anything that happens in your life. Do not regret what you did. Do not regret what you never did. Be bold. Do it. You have nothing to lose. In the words of Drake, “You only live once, YOLO”.

You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 33

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1. Only a real gentleman will pay for a girl’s parking, even when she visits for only thirty minutes. #keepitclassyboys #thisishowwedo #thatswhatimtalkingabout

2. Am I the only girl on the planet who truly doesn’t even care that Friday is Valentines Day? #overit #everyonestopwhining #itsjustanotherday

3. If you’re a guy and begging me to “send a picture” (no matter how appropriate or inappropriate you want it to be), you can bet your ass that I’m going to be a bitch to you. #notevengonnalie #notgonnaworkonmebuddy #canwehavesomeclasshereplease #whereareyourmanners

4. Most girls get really excited when they start to like a new guy. Not me. My thoughts end up looking like this: “Oh no. Please stop this. No. I can’t like him. I don’t like people. Noooooo. Make this torture stop. Put me out of my misery.” #idontlikelikingguys #ughicantdealwithfeelings #canijustnot #helpmeee

5. If I haven’t spoken to you in over a month, odds are I will not reply to your stupid Facebook message to me, including some lame link about something that I don’t even care enough about. AND THEN, end your message with “Hope you are well!” Um, we aren’t friends. You are a douche. #patheticguys #youruinedthisyourself #goodluckbeingadoucheinlife #iwantnothingtodowithyou #isecrelyhopeyoureadthispost

6. Guys are just as self-conscious as girls with what they say. Guys say certain things when they really mean something or like a girl, they don’t pull the “If you meet my friends…” out of nowhere. #butreally #okayicandothis #butreally

7. You are not allowed to use the phrase, “Oh no honey” when you still live with your parents, buy cheap clothes, and use cheap, caky makeup. #pleasestop #youarenotthatgreat #youropinionisirrelevantinthegrandschemeoflife #facepalmforyou

8. Despite the fact that Sarah Dessen is an author for “young adults”, I always feel refreshed with a new perspective when I read one of her books. Often too, a little hopeful about life. #thosestories #readingisgoodforthesoul

9. I already know I am getting a new tote and sunglasses with my tax refund money because that is the only way I’m getting new ones. #ineedthemreally #michaelkorsitout #iloveworkingatnordstrom

10. Find that one thing in life that brings you a peace of mind: whether it is laying on your bed listening to Keane, reading one of your favorite books over, going for a late night drive with the right music — find that. It will help bring clarity to your mind and allow you to breathe a little easier. #lifeadvice #butreally #peaceisagoodthing #breathedeeper

Trisha’s Top Tweets of Summer

In memory of the passing of Summer 2013, I am publishing on my blog my top summer tweets. If you care to follow me, my Twitter is @trishasteffens 🙂 Check it out!

You have never had an IPA? And WHY was I in love with you? #wecantbefriends #goodbeer #whodrinkscoors

“Just tell me I’m yours. Because I am. No need for expectations or commitment. It’s just the way it is. It just IS.”

Am I the only former Coug that is excited it’s HUSKY FOOTBALL?! #uwalumkid #purpleinmyblood #GoDawgs

I am that white girl blasting Tech Nine. #trishaproblems #whitegirlproblems

So I don’t think I will be buying food this week. #spentalmostallmymoney #longchamp #shopping #toomanyclothes #noshame

I can’t handle that again sober. #truelife #awksitations #whereisthetequila

Only my family would have bonding time time by sitting out on the deck and smoking clove cigars. #familytime #familybonding #toofunny #dysfunctional

When your best friend is your wingman and she isn’t even there. #stuffmorgantexts #bestiesfolyfe #wingwoman

I keep wanting him to text back, but then I remember he’s kind of driving a boat. #seattlegirlproblems #guys #boats #seattlelife

Those days when your cat decides he’s a model. #showingoff #mycathasmentalissues #justanothernight

RETWEET: “I high five girls after sex, not cuddle. I don’t want them to get the wrong idea.”

I keep a bottle of wine on hand in case of emergencies. #emergencywine #wineisgood #thetrishalife

RETWEET: “The best thing about pre-season football is getting to pretend that Tony Romo is not the Cowboys’ quarterback.”

RETWEET: “The only insults I will ever take seriously on Twitter are from gay teenagers.”

I wish I was Nina Dobrev. #trishaproblems #TVDhottie

Love is never the answer, TEQUILA is the answer. #duh #ofcourse #tequilaisreal #loveisnotreal

It’s hard to be better than someone when you’re obsessed with rodeos…#truelife #ew #pleasestoptalking #yourenotclassy #hicksitellya

When you dream about the Vampire Diaires and never want to be woken up again. #stefanwasmyboyfriend #dontwakemeup #torture #sadnow

I’m 87% sure I’m a mermaid. #truelife #trishaproblems #lifehappens #mermaidproblems

I have decided I need more cookbooks…and maybe some food to cook with. #trishaproblems #iamnotdomestic #whatiscooking

“It’s going to be….sex” #stuffmorgansays #bestfriends #truethoughts

I don’t think I’m going to be “passive aggressive” Trisha today. #pissedoff #sassy #trishaproblems

When your best friend hits on the random Australian living in your house. #drunkproblems #littlemorganthings

I am pretty sure the apocalypse is happening in Skagit Valley. #mountvernonwildfire #skagitvalleywashington #icanseeitfrommyhouse #anotherdayinthelifeof

I am pretty sure I am still hungover from being drunk 24 hours ago… #trishaproblems #tequilaismyfriend #latenights #yolo

Every day I think to myself, “I wonder what stupid shit my ex did today” just for pure amusement. #stupidpeoplemakemelaugh #imabitchdontcare

The moment when your mom helps you sneak a boy out of your house who snuck in through the window. #badboys #dayinthelifeof #trishaproblems

Liking you is really putting a damper on my life. #crushproblems

“I feel like you would be a manwhore, but I feel like this (gestures to the face) gets in the way.” -Morgan to James #stuffmorgansays #clipperattendantconvos #bestfriend #omg

I hate when people you love to stalk on Instagram put their settings on private. #wth #idontwanttofollowyou #dammit

95% of the time, I cannot deal with my feelings towards boys. #truelife #trishaproblems #sometimesiwishiwasalesbian

I want a big girl job…and a cup of coffee. A BIG cup of coffee. #tired. #caffeineisneeded #crankymorningperson

“Germs make you vomit. GERMS make weird stuff grow on your privates.” #stuffjamessays #clipperattendantconvos #germs

The awkward moment when half of your ex boyfriends are married. #iam20 #awksituations #hahayouuglay #trishaproblems

I had 666 friends, so I deleted one because I couldn’t deal with the number. #trishaproblems #sorrynotsorry #evilnumber #superstitiousashell

True guy friends seduce boys using your phone. #ihaveweirdfriends #bromisaweirdo #lovemycoworkers

I still manage to throw something at the TV when LC choose Jason over Paris at the end of season one of the Hills. #theHills #flashback #LC #hateJason

Giving your mom a pair of cowboys boots you don’t wear in exchange for her paying your chiropractor bill. #trishaproblems #billsbillsbills #dowhatigottado

“I’ve had periods longer than that.” #stuffdesnisays #bestfriend #yourenotinloveafteraweek

I should have my own show called “The Cat Whisperer.” #crazycatlady #ilovecats #theytalktome

I really need to stop watching #TeenWolf and start working on my resume. #howoldamiagain #ilovewerewolves #cantstopwatchingthisshow

Never give up on someone who texts you after a bridge collapse. #iwillneverunderstandhim #wtfiswrongwithyou

If I hear one more girl use the word “hubby” I will have a nervous breakdown and become a werewolf. #truelife #notcute #trishaproblems #iamsecretlyawerewolf

My intoxicated mother informed me she will be living until she is 120. #mothers #trishaproblems #wineisalwaystheanswer

When you sit your cat and dog down for the “vacuum cleaners are not monsters” talk. #ineedtogobacktowork #yesitalktomypets #imgoingcrazy

When you tell your mother, “I don’t answer the door anyway, then I have to talk real people and not the dog…” #trishaproblems #ihatepeople #pleasedonttalktome

When Amanda Knox’s book becomes way more interesting than anything else going on in your life. #cantstopreading #sogood #kindlebooks

When your cat pretends he’s dying just so you will let him into your room. #mycathasmentalissues #jesusyouscaredme #crazycatlady

Ian and Nina broke up? No. No. No. I can’t deal. #teamdamonforever #favcelebcouple #perfecttogether #TVDcouples #dyinginside

 

You’re Forgetting How to Act Part 15

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1. If you are a girl or my age and did not cry when the news that Cory Monteith died — you have no soul. #RIPCoryMonteith #PrayforLea

2. It is about time to change your iPhone case when your actual phone is in better shape than your case.

3. Breakfast at three in the morning is always acceptable, especially when you’re still drunk on tequila. #grownupliving

4. Lately, it seems something bad always happens when I’m in Mount Vernon. Between bridges falling and wildfires, I’m beginning to take it personally. #badluck #skagitcountyproblems

5. If he is wearing anything camo, he’s not worth your time. #duh #keepitclassy

6. There is no crime for paying $18 for a quality basic tank top — especially recycled fabric. However, it is a crime to pay that much for a tub top…

7. The best revenge after breaking off a relationship? Losing ten pounds. #motivation #hahasucker

8. I don’t need to go to the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale? Do you realize who you are talking to? #cmonhere #besttimeofthesummer

9. Tequila parties are THE summer party to RSVP to.

10. President Obama is probably the classiest president since Kennedy. So much grace and tact, it makes me proud I supported him. #lovethatman #classymofo

11. I only listen to hip-hop that does not involve “getting bitches” and using women has sex objects #norkellyforme #puhlease

12. Whoever said diamonds are a girl’s best friend, obviously never had a dog.

13. Despite the level of controversy the new Rolling Stone caused (why are we surprised people, it’s Rolling Stone….) that was one of the best articles I have read in quite a while. #keepaware #openmind

14. The brain game site, Luminosity is pretty awesome. Check it out! #workthatbrain

15. Love is not just found in romance between two people. It can be found in the deepest of friendships, the embrace of a parent, or even in the simple lick of a dog.